Saturday 4 November 2017

Treat your burn as it affects you

My mum and I both had kitchen accidents 3 weeks apart which resulted in burns.
I was so hungry one morning and I was running late so mummy dearest offered to fry me sausages and in the process, hot oil poured on her hand.

I, on the other hand was grilling plantain in the oven for both of us and my finger somehow touched the hot surface.

We have both had burns. We both got it from the use of hot appliances in the kitchen. However my scar is completely infinitesimal compared to the scar my mum has. Same experience. Different scars.

Just imagine me giving my mum advice on how to treat her burn based on my 'experience'. Not even in a subtle way but forcibly making my point because i have 'experience'.The impact was completely different. Sebi this one is even better; people who have not been 'burnt' at all will still give you advise on how to treat 'burns'. Stop making people feel uncomfortable. They are not you. You are not them. It is not your place to tell people how to react in particular situations just because you are 'experienced'.

I have had people who do not know me past what I post on social media advise me on what they know absolutely nothing about. While some are sincere, some intentionally want to throw jabs and force their opinions down your throat.

Truth is, you are not qualified to play judge over anybody's life. So share your experience, perhaps people can learn a thing or two but do not be condescending and judgmental. Do not use your scar to judge another person's scar.
Your journey is yours, my journey is mine.

Uphold your brethren in love. When you do not understand some things, commit them to God rather than malign them. 'Is he the only one?' 'Is she the only one?' 'Me nko, did I die? 'Ordinary slap, she say she's not doing again. If I say my own nko' 'Just because his child told one lie, he is acting like that. If I say what my children do nko. Abeg nobody is perfect', etc. Leave them alone! That is you. Face your own! Let everybody treat their burn to the degree to which it affects them.

Don’t bad-mouth each other, friends. It’s God’s Word, his Message, his Royal Rule, that takes a beating in that kind of talk. You’re supposed to be honoring the Message, not writing graffiti all over it. God is in charge of deciding human destiny. Who do you think you are to meddle in the destiny of others?
James 4:11‭-‬12 MSG

Peace, love and kind-heartedness,

Love.

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